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DSC_0008Meet Mommy Okikiola and Mommy Favour Girl……yes that is what we call them. These are two of our caregivers in our program. They take care of Okikiola and Favour.

Mommy Okikiola is actually the Aunt of Okikiola. Okikiola was abandoned by her father when she was very young. A few years later she was then abandoned by her mother. When we met Okikiola she was not in school and she was with living with her Aunt. Her Aunt was owing 3 terms of school fees to Okikiola’s school and was voiceless and exhausted.

Mommy Favour got pregnant out of wedlock when she was very young and the boyfriend abandoned her. She was living with her mother and trying to complete  seamstress training. When we met her Favour was not in school because she didn’t have money for school fees. She was voiceless and exhausted.

dsc_0206.jpgA year ago a missionary in Egbe showed me a trivet from Burundi she had bought that was made out of bottle caps and African cloth. She told me I should try and see if I could do this in Egbe with our caregivers. With the help of google I was able to learn how to make these beautiful pieces and train Mommy Okikiola and Mommy Favour. They make one piece about every 3 days and get paid immediately upon completion.

C.A.R.E. Africa’s vision and mission is To Invest Courage into the Voiceless and Exhausted. Empowerment is one of the many programs we offer to accomplish this. Both of these women have been empowered by learning how to make trivets. Help us empower them by purchasing one, two or three trivets for Christmas this year. They are only $8.00 and have the C.A.R.E. Africa label on the back stating that they were handmade in Nigeria. Order now to have yours by Christmas! Visit our Etsy store at http://bit.ly/CAREtrivet to place your order.

 

 

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My home made birthday cake from Lenny and kids.

Thank you to all my friends, family members and supporters who made my birthday so wonderful. I spent my birthday in Kano, Nigeria with C.A.R.E. Africa, SIM, Lenny and kids. From coffee lattes and cake with my friend Jocelyn, to shopping for fabric in the local market, a package from the USA with a awesome t-shirt and a surprise homemade cake from Lenny after a 5 hour drive back to Jos from Kano….it was a great birthday.

Icing on the cake was that my birthday wish of getting a playground for my kids in Egbe was granted. Thanks to everyone $2,104 came in, of the $2,400 that I had asked for. I am so excited about this and cannot wait to send you all pictures of the kids playing on the new equipment. I will head to Egbe in a few weeks to start working on this along with many other items. Please pray for safe travels along with wisdom and discernment from God as C.A.R.E. Africa continues to grow.

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Coffee Lattes and cake in Kano.

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Fabric shopping with my favorite shopping partner!

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My birthday gift all the way from America by post in only 11 days.

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Dream come true!

Happy Birthday to me, Happy Birthday to me, Happy Birthday to me (Patrice), Happy Birthday to me.

Everyday my kids have recess time where they run out to a gated dirt playground with nothing but a ball and some jump ropes. My Birthday is on Sunday and I cannot think of a better Birthday wish than a Playground for my kids at our school. The joy it would bring to my heart to get to see them playing on actual playground equipment would be the best birthday present ever!

Please consider donating to our playground for my birthday! Click https://www.gosponsorit.com/careafrica/playground to donate.

Babylon

Posted: October 2, 2018 by Patrice Miles in Miles In Missions, Missionaries, Nigeria, Patrice Miles, Prayer, SIM

Babylon “…your wisdom and knowledge mislead you when you say ‘I am and there is none besides me’…”. Isaiah 47:10

Babylon represents a cultural mentality of self-absorption and over indulgence where image and materialism are gods.

Screen Shot 2018-10-02 at 10.10.51 AMI truly believe the expectations placed upon you living in America (Babylon) are so much harder than my struggles living in Nigeria (even now with all the violence and rioting). I put you up on a pedestal and clap for you because you fight every day to put God first when everything around you says to put “YOU” first. You wake up each morning inundated with every “god” you could possibly want – Clothes, Cars, Houses, Jewelry, Toys, Exercise, Food and so much more. From billboards as you drive to commercials while you watch your favorite show, you are tempted every day to put other gods before the one true God. 

People are actually employed at marketing firms with the single purpose of figuring out what can induce you to want -no need – to buy their product. In addition, culture dictates you must attend all social events, your child must play every sport, you must exercise to be thin, pay high prices for “healthy” food and everyone you know must get a gift at Christmas. You are constantly barraged with what will give your life meaning and make you happy.

As a Christian we know social events, sports, exercise and gift giving are not bad. When they become a god in our life and our identity becomes wrapped up in what we have, what we do and what we look like then we are in trouble.

I am in awe of you for your ability to live in a modern day Babylon (America)- “gate of the gods”.

Thank you for sacrificing your time to pray for us or send an email that encourages us when everything around you says, “You don’t have time.”
Thank you for sacrificing your funds when everything around you says “Keep that money and spend it on yourself because you need this or that.”
Thank you for sacrificing your vacation to come serve with us in Nigeria when everything around you says “Take that vacation time for yourself.”
Thank you for putting together a care package for my family when everything around you says; “You are too busy for that or you don’t have the money for that”.

Screen Shot 2018-10-02 at 10.15.43 AMWhen I think of your daily battles I am humbled.

I don’t have radio, billboards or television commercials telling me of what I must have or what I must do to be fulfilled.

I don’t have the “Joneses” to keep up with.

Your battle against the Babylonian culture is one fight my family and I don’t face here in Nigeria. I wanted you to know that I am thankful for those of you who put on your battle gear every day to fight the good fight.

Thank you for living in Babylon with the constant struggle of not falling prey to the “ME” culture and for choosing to make time to pray for and financially support us and our ministries.

Many of you know our Nigerian daughter, Titi. For those of you who have no idea who she is – I invite you to click on the following link to read Titi’s amazing testimony. https://milesinmissions.wordpress.com/2018/03/01/my-goal-my-dream-my-life/

After Titi moved in with us we felt it was part of God’s plan for her to have the best education we could provide. We signed Titi up for SAT and TOEFL classes to prepare her for the required international exams. We also had to obtain an international passport so she could take those exams. There were mountains of paperwork to complete in applying to colleges and universities; and applying for scholarships and grants. We even applied to programs to help you apply for scholarships. In all this time we had no idea of the plans our God had put in place. So we just kept “throwing spaghetti at the wall” to see what would stick. The process was exhausting and the responses we received back were demoralizing. She was denied scholarships or financial aid because she wasn’t in the top of her class or she didn’t score over 1400 on the SAT or she wasn’t involved in sports. We were told over and over again that Titi’s case was hopeless and we were wasting our time.

I was near tears one evening when I vented all my frustration to my Bible study group. I knew I heard very clearly that God wanted something better for Titi but He was not showing us what His plans were. The good news is that we didn’t give up and we continued to tell Titi’s story to everyone we came across.

Finally one day we got an acceptance letter from Webster University, a U.S. University located in Ghana. They offered her a 25% scholarship. We were excited as she would be close enough to travel home for visits plus the food wouldn’t be so different and there would be a large African population for her to make friends. The icing on the cake was a U.S. college education. It sounded perfect! Then one day I was telling a fellow missionary about our many challenges with college applications and she asked if we had ever tried Lancaster Bible College. I said “Where in the world is Lancaster?” As she shared about this amazing college and how they worked with her on her two sons’ tuitions- I began to get excited. We had already applied to a million places so what was one more application – just to make certain – before we committed Titi to the university in Ghana.

I emailed the info@lancaster address and said very bluntly in my email…”I don’t want to waste either of our time but we have an amazing Nigerian daughter whose testimony I have attached. We have acceptance to Webster University with a 25% scholarship. That is where she is going unless you have something better.” I was weary and just could not be anything but direct. Within 24 hours we had an email from an angel who had talked to their admissions team and were offering Titi a 50% scholarship in the degree program she was wanting!!! But there were big hurdles that had to be tackled. The remaining 50% of tuition, housing and meals as they were not included in the scholarship PLUS we had the issue of a Visa and airfare. Wow God, we have been “throwing spaghetti at the wall” and a few things have actually stuck!

So we began tackling our hurdles one at a time. Housing – who do we know in Lancaster? Lenny, my husband, reminded me that we actually knew three families who had served in Nigeria and just left the field in the past 30 days that were from Lancaster. I was laughing now! I reached out to these wonderful missionaries to see if they would ask their churches and friends if anyone would be willing to provide housing for an international student. That Sunday we laid hands on Titi and asked God to provide housing if His plans were for her to attend Lancaster Bible College. Within 24 hours I received a message from the sweetest, young couple you will ever meet, Simeon and Alison Harrar. They opened their home to Titi AND they live 1 mile from campus!

Ok God, you have provided the school, the scholarship and the housing now we need a Visa. Our experience with a Nigerian being granted a Visa has not been a good one. On top of everything there was the pressure of forfeiting the Webster University scholarship if we did not respond back within a few days. We moved forward with Lancaster Bible College believing that God hadn’t opened all these doors only to have her Visa application denied. On July 16th, Titi’s 20th birthday, she was granted a U.S. Visa. But we barely had time to celebrate as we now faced the $15,000 hurdle…her tuition, airfare, monthly meals and supplies. Lord we need a miracle!

Titi sent emails out to everyone she had ever met. God provided and day-by-day donations started to come in – $6,800 to date. In addition, some precious people donated their air miles for Titi’s airline ticket.

This blog is so long but it can’t even begin to tell all the big and small miracles that Titi and I would wake up to every morning and dance and scream. The beginning of the year was such a struggle but the past few months were so sweet and God totally showed up and showed off. This process encouraged me even more to not give up and to persevere until we hear the voice of God say “STOP” or He shuts a door in our face. I wanted to give up so many times and just yell “What do you want us to do? Speak louder! I am tired of “throwing spaghetti at the wall” to see what sticks….can’t you just do this already?” Even in His silence and our exhaustion we continued to take baby steps in faith every day just waiting for Him to open a door real wide so we wouldn’t miss stepping through it. I hope this encourages some of you who are facing your own hurdles to keep “throwing spaghetti at the wall” until something sticks – God is faithful – don’t give up.

Titi is in the states now at Lancaster Bible College studying social work. She has a blog you can follow called https://plantainsplease.wordpress.com/ She still needs support so if you feel led to donate to her college education or her daily living expenses you can donate at http://bit.ly/titischool to our ministry account and the money will get to her. Just write Titi in the memo.

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It’s kinda crazy to think we have been living in Nigeria for 5 years now! God has been so good and we have learned so much. From the revitalization of Egbe hospital, to C.A.R.E. Africa’s birth, AWANA Nigeria in Egbe, C.A.R.E. craft shows, our own kids growing a foot or two, Ebola, spiritual battles, malaria and other illnesses, weddings, moving from Egbe to Jos, Lenny’s new role as SIM Communication Specialist, additions to our family (animal and human) and now an opening of a primary school….. God has been faithful! Nigeria is home now and we are excited to see what else he has in store for our family.

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C.A.R.E. Craft Shows

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Emma & Tofunmi’s Wedding

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IMG_1122How it all began….

It was September 2017 and the Global Leadership Summit in Jos was going strong. C.A.R.E. Africa CEO, Emma and I listened to speaker after speaker with growing enthusiasm. I don’t remember the speaker but I do remember the impact of what was shared….“think big and don’t ask HOW just say WOW!” Emma and I looked at each other and said “We really need to start a school!” I immediately wanted to say but “HOW” and Emma reminded me of the speaker and said “WOW” Yup that is how it all started!!

We had no clue where to start but I knew a missionary, Marybeth Oyebade, who had successfully started several schools in Jos, Nigeria. Marybeth maintained standards unlike any other Nigerian school I had seen before. The curriculum had some Western influence. School fees were kept comparable to other schools but the teacher to child ratio was lower. Teachers, parents and students were held to a higher standard than normal. No cheating allowed. Failing students were not promoted to the next grade. Integrity was integral to the foundational values of the school. All of these things seemed like a dream come true! The icing on the cake was when I asked Marybeth to help me take her school to Egbe and she said YES!

IMG_3557I immediately reached out to my Business Coach, Scott Beebe with Business on Purpose https://www.mybusinessonpurpose.com. He helped C.A.R.E. Africa get out of our chaos a few years ago by providing vision, mission, policies, procedures and so much more. When I told him what I was wanting to do he simply asked “Hey you want me to fly to Nigeria and help you with this joint venture?” God is so good!

A few weeks later Scott Bebee, Emma, Tofunmi, Marybeth along with husband Bayo Oyebade and I were all sitting at a desk putting together a joint venture. Scott not only helped us with the legal issues but also helped us with a timeline, org charts, job descriptions and much more. Scott’s time with us was such a blessing and God knew we needed this to jump-start our school.

DSC_0484 (2)Since then it has definitely been a learning process. Marybeth and I continue to trust the people God is putting in front of us to catapult this school to its opening Sept 10, 2018. I could write an entire story about all the miracles that have occurred along the way but I will just share a few. With Marybeth’s blessing, one of her staff members has volunteered to leave the comfort of Jos and move to Egbe for a year to provide consultation and mentorship to our new C.A.R.E. Africa school staff. Other miracles include the qualified teachers God has provided that are full of joy; the U.S. mission team who just happened to be teachers and knew exactly how to decorate classrooms; curriculum getting delivered just in the nick of time AND some unexpected donations that allowed us to buy a few more needed supplies.

As with anything good, some spiritual attacks are to be expected. These attacks have been exhausting but we are persevering. We are in our last leg of this race and your help is needed! Please be in serious prayer for the $15,000 U.S. Embassy grant we have applied for to be approved. This $15,000 grant would allow us to finish the schoolrooms and pay teacher salaries for the first year since there will be no income coming from the school in year one.  Please add the U.S. embassy grant request to your prayer list! I hope to hear something by month’s end.

This school promises a bright future for the C.A.R.E. Africa kids and the community of Egbe. We covet your prayers and if you would like to financially support our C.A.R.E. Africa school all donations can be sent to https://give.icareafrica.org/careafrica/careschool

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Since moving from village life in Egbe to city life in Jos – my life has become more comfortable. In Egbe I was on my knees daily just to make it through each day. I prayed about the heat, the workload, my husband’s constant bouts of malaria, the spiritual warfare, not too mention the constant prayers for CARE Africa . I needed and relied on God to show up every day. Life in Jos is still hard – it’s Nigeria – but it is easier than Egbe. I talk to God all the time but it isn’t the same yearning and deep need for Him like when we lived in Egbe.

Screen Shot 2018-07-21 at 8.53.18 AMI recently read a book called God’s Smuggler. It is a true story of how a young, Dutchman by the name of Brother Andrew risked his life to bring faith and hope to believers behind the Iron Curtain. While reading the book I was continuously jealous of all the miracles Brother Andrew experienced. Some were as simple as a cake being provided for a meeting where he had no money to buy one. Others were big miracles like not getting checked at checkpoints where he had over 100 Bibles hidden in his car. I was so jealous and I felt if he experienced miracles in the 1930’s why can’t I experience God’s miracles in the 2018’s. I got on my knees and begged to see, hear, and experience God like Brother Andrew did. I begged God to “show up and show off” as I like to say.

When I asked God to make me like the God Smuggler, I was expecting great miracles and even greater blessings. Well, over the past month God has been showing up and showing off. I can’t begin to document in this blog all the great things He has done and is doing. What I forgot is that when God is doing a great work someone else is trying to disrupt that work – someone who wants to steal God’s glory. I don’t want to mention his name in case that gives him any power but we all know who he is. He prowls around like a Lion.

Staff finalPray for me, for my family, for my husband’s media ministry, for my CARE Africa staff and for our school that we are starting in Egbe. My family and CARE Africa staff have experienced some serious spiritual attacks such as health problems, computers crashing, uncontrollable emotions/ thoughts, missionaries leaving, different cultural problems and even serious and brutal killings only miles from our home. There is sin in this world and when God is visibly doing big works in your life – evil is going to want to try and conquer it. There is a battle going on that our small, small minds cannot even grasp. It is a battle for our minds and souls and we know we are the winner, but there is nothing that says we will not experience suffering.

Screen Shot 2018-07-21 at 8.57.53 AMThere is a song I really like by Kari Jo that is called “Speak to Me”. If you listen to it and ask Him to speak to you He will. Be prepared to put your armor on because that prowling lion will begin to challenge you. I encourage you to beat the crap out of him with prayer when he comes to steal, rob and destroy.  Pray and watch God “show up and show off”. It is a beautiful thing to see!

 

Would you consider becoming one of our prayer partners? Through these challenges so many have come alongside me and made me realize even more the importance of prayer to fight these battles. We currently have 214 of you out there praying when I send my requests. I would love for it to be 1000!! Click http://eepurl.com/DZf_D to receive our weekly prayer requests.

family-preservationFamily Based Care is all the rave at any adoption/orphan conference and in any article, blog or discussion regarding orphans and adoption. There are hundreds of studies that show most children in orphanages are there because of poverty, not orphanhood. Many children we call “orphans” have some form of family that would care for them if they had the means. Strengthening families is the best way to meet the needs of orphans and other vulnerable children.

When Emma and I started C.A.R.E. Africa we agreed to do everything we could to keep kids in families. We have struggled with Family Based Care many times over the past four years and thought an orphanage would be soooo much easier. There are many positives to Family Based Care but also many negatives. The biggest negative is the lack of control we have regarding the children and their learning environment.

careboysThey go to school for 8 hours a day in a Nigerian school system where cheating is overlooked and teachers send them on personal errands during school lessons. There is no accountability regarding attendance and shame based punishment is the norm. At the end of the school day they go home to a grandma who may not know how to read or speak English. The C.A.R.E. Africa children are kept busy running errands for water, firewood, cooking and childcare such that there is no time for homework or studying for an exam. C.A.R.E. Africa has a policy that no child should be out past 7pm but we do not have the manpower to monitor all the children in our program 24 hours a day.

Two times a week we meet with our children for discipleship. In those 4 hours each week we spend intentional time with our children teaching them about Christ and Christ-like behavior. However, the other 32 hours a week are spent in a less than ideal school system. Some of our children have been accused of stealing, lying, cheating, gambling and other bad behaviors. If we had an orphanage they could start each day with morning devotions, we could guarantee they attend school and make certain they have help with their homework all while showing them the love of Christ.

An orphanage sounds so much easier, right?

But could there be a middle ground?

Something that allows the children to stay within a family but allows us more time to sow into these children. Something that helps us build good character traits and show these children what a relationship with Christ looks like. For the last four years we have wanted to know what this missing piece to the puzzle of Family Based Care is and I thank God He has revealed it to us!

Last Import - 338 of 581OUR OWN SCHOOL – 36 hours a week to demonstrate Christ’s love to these kids.

1. We will hire and train great Christian teachers that walk with the Lord.
2. We will keep the classroom pupil to teacher ratio low so each teacher can have relationship with the children.
3. We will have special classes for children that need extra help in subjects so they can regain their confidence to try and learn.
4. We will teach discipline through correction that doesn’t exasperate the child through shame and fear.
5. We will hold teachers accountable to a different style of teaching that involves discussions, questions and answers so the children can learn to think outside the box.
6. We will know that our children are attending school.

This C.A.R.E. Africa school will be free of fear and shame based learning! This C.A.R.E. Africa school will encourage children to have relationship with each other and their teachers! This C.A.R.E. Africa school will teach children confidence and encourage them to dream of a better future.

1st tutored kidsPray for the five teachers that we have hired for our school. They will come to our city, Jos, for three weeks in August for training. Their eyes will be opened to a different way of teaching and how they can truly make a difference in each child’s life at our school. This 3-week training is critical for these teachers to learn new pathways for effective and compassionate teaching. We cannot do it without financial support. Please consider sponsoring this training which will include transportation to Jos, accommodations and feeding for all five C.A.R.E. Africa teachers. Click TEACHERS to donate to their training.

Transportation is $200
Accommodations is $600
Feeding is $500
TOTAL $1,300 needed for Teacher training.

DSC_0067Over a year ago, while looking for HIV/AIDS resources for Spring of Life Egbe counseling center, I stumbled across a hospital in Jos called Faith Alive.  What started out as a small clinic for HIV/AIDS patients is now a three-story hospital that serves over 10,000 patients a month with various medical problems, provides ongoing care for HIV/AIDS patients, provides maternity care and performs about  3-4 surgeries each day. What makes Faith Alive unique is that all medical care is offered free of charge. Dr. Chris Isichei , Founder of Faith Alive, relies on local Nigerian doctors to volunteer their time outside of their regular jobs at other hospitals.  Dr Chris has been a source of encouragement and help to me in my ministries in Egbe over the past year. When I asked how could I help him, his only request was for more volunteers.

After some research and legalities I was able to establish a partnership agreement between SIM, my mission organization, and Faith Alive. Now I am able to help Dr. Chris by recruiting missionaries to come serve at Faith Alive Hospital.

DSC_0040My first volunteer (guinea pig) is Carman Marflak.  Carman is a nurse anesthetist who has made several mission trips to ECWA Hospital Egbe and is also a member of one of our supporting churches back home in America.  She was coming to ECWA Egbe Hospital for her 5th visit and was interested in seeing our ministries in Jos.  I was excited to tell her about the needs of Faith Alive Hospital and she agreed to come serve!  

At the time of writing this post, Carman Marflak has almost completed her 2 weeks at Faith Alive in Jos. During her time here the staff have been trained and encouraged.  She has improved their spinal block techniques, taught them how to place OI needles and has started organizing the operating room (OR).  Carman has also given several lectures at University of Jos to medical and nurse anesthetist students. I visited her at the OR a few days ago and the smiles and thank you’s from the staff for letting “Grandma” come were overwhelming. The staff of Faith Alive have fallen in love with Carman and I know she has fallen in love with them.

IMG_1901It hasn’t been easy being our volunteer guinea pig. The OR at Faith Alive is under equipped.  They need a new anesthesia machine, new OR beds, running water, better sterilization equipment and so much more.  Many times Carman was the only anesthetist available due to a shortage of nurses on surgery days.  “Grandma” Carman has survived an exhausting but rewarding two-weeks and her experience is helping me better prepare future medical volunteers for their service at Faith Alive. We currently have 2 pre med students and 2 nurses coming to Jos in June and a general surgeon is coming long term next year!

IMG_1958If you or someone you know is interested in medical missions, please email us at jos.personnel@sim.org. Faith Alive is only one of our many medical missions opportunities. We also have an amazing revitalized hospital in the bush of Egbe with an eye and dental clinic called ECWA Hospital Egbe, we have an eye clinic in Kano that serves a predominantly Muslim population call Kano Eye Hospital,  and the largest VVF (Vesico-Vaginal Fistula) clinic in the world located in Jos that ministers to women from the “North”. In addition we have several community health and medical outreach opportunities throughout Nigeria.  If you are looking to serve in a foreign country- come visit us in Nigeria. I promise it will be a rewarding experience you will never forget!  

See this latest video my husband, SIM Communications Specialist, put together about Medical Missions in Nigeria. https://vimeo.com/272002516

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