Archive for the ‘Orphans’ Category

13415529_1735358856747343_6356577368093709828_oThe Miles Hotel opened June 1st 2016 when Southeast Christian members and friends Joe and Wyatt Brown, Payton Sheeran, and Nadia Miles arrived. Joe and Wyatt served in construction and HIV outreach for almost two weeks. Payton served with C.A.R.E. Africa for one month. Nadia was our jack of all trades  for two months serving as meter maid, reading teacher, inventory clerk, babysitter, pen cleaner, AWANA helper, and brochure stamper. Having a full house for the past two months has had its ups and downs. We’ve laughed a lot and also wanted to hurt each other a few times. We had no clue that God might be preparing our hearts and minds for something so much bigger.

13329409_10102183060451448_446769631903074507_oNick and Katie Riddle, two fellow missionaries have been fostering three C.A.R.E. Africa kids. (See their story by clicking on Riddle Blog). They were scheduled for home assignment after two years of service in Egbe. They applied with the US Embassy for VISA’s for the kids and were denied due to the fact they did not have legal guardianship. They hired an attorney, eventually received legal guardianship, and went back to the Embassy. They unfortunately were denied again and this time were given no reason. We were all traumatized and in disbelief as to why this was happening. The Riddles had no clue what to do as the thought of leaving the kids behind was to much to bear. Through prayer, tears, and silence we all realized that the Riddles needed to go back to the U.S. to visit family and friends. Also, they need to get re-fueled financially, physically, and spiritually for another Egbe term.  It was not an easy decision but we all felt that it was God’s will.

IMG_3730The Miles Hotel is once again full. We have three new beautiful faces that are teaching us so much about Nigerian culture while my kids are teaching them about Nutella, sorry Nick and Katie. I have tasted Golden Malt, rice and palm oil, and laughed till my belly hurts when Testimony says the funniest things. I know we are still in the honeymoon stage but these kids are the sweetest. Katie and Nick have done an amazing job at parenting. My kids and the Riddles kids have always been friends, after this experience I believe the bond will be more like brothers and sisters. It will be a relationship that lasts a lifetime no matter where in the world they all are.

IMG_3731Thank you Lord for unexpected bumps in the road. We grow closer to you as we jump over them. Please pray for Nick and Katie as they seek God’s wisdom in next steps for their family. If you would like to support them in their next Egbe term either one time or monthly, they could use your help as their family has grown. Click Riddle Family for a donation link.

Celebration

Posted: July 26, 2016 by Patrice Miles in C.A.R.E. Africa, Egbe, Miles In Missions, Orphans, Patrice Miles

We have recently started a monthly celebration party to catch up with our kids and celebrate life. Our first party we were able to introduce our 6 new intakes, celebrate the graduation of several of the kids and also celebrate birthdays. We watched Finding Dory, ate Jollof rice and cake and made letters to our sponsors. These kids are precious and we are so excited to be planting seeds into their lives. Thank you for helping us!

 

This Blog was written by Payton Sheeran who is a teacher and came and lived with our family in Egbe, Nigeria for one month. She came to help at the school where the C.A.R.E. kids attend. I added the pictures.

13600273_1020653531382722_5929615649844329561_n “…give me neither poverty nor riches! Give me just enough to satisfy my needs. For if I grow rich, I may deny you and say, “Who is the Lord?” And if I am too poor, I may steal and thus insult God’s holy name.” Proverbs 30:8-9

Many times when people come back from mission trips to other countries, they say that their experience there made them appreciate all they have in America. While I understand where they are coming from, this is not a lesson I took away from the month I spent in Nigeria. Now don’t get me wrong, I did recognize the poverty I saw in Nigeria. Many of the homes I saw were small with only one room. Those who do work make very little—if I remember correctly it is equivalent to about $2 a day. The people live simply. Some do not have enough; some have just enough. Though I stayed with missionaries and did not experience real poverty at their home, it was still not like living in America. However, I enjoyed this simplistic lifestyle. I enjoyed just having enough.

13528906_1020650084716400_2984030722363838612_nComing back to the states I experienced somewhat of a small culture shock. While I knew I would miss the people of Egbe, Nigeria, I did not expect to miss living in their culture. I missed living simply and being in Africa. My thoughts coming back were not “I am so thankful for all the things I have here,” but “why do we need all this excess stuff?” While I am thankful for the things I have, my eyes were opened to all we have in America that we do not need. While the people in Nigeria live simply with enough, or less than enough, we in America live in excess with way more than enough. Do we really need a fast food place on every corner? Do we really need 100+ options for cereal?! And shampoo? And soap? And everything else with our many options? We have so much in America. Everything seems to be accessible, right at our fingertips. But instead of making me grateful, this makes me sad.

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With a changed heart, coming back into America, it did not feel so much like home anymore. I didn’t feel like I quite belonged anymore—and I wasn’t sure that I wanted to belong to this culture. My first impression of coming back into America was that this culture seems to be shallow, selfish, and taken for granted. While I’m not saying that all Americans are this way, our culture as a whole seems this way to me. We take for granted all our excess stuff and the ease we have in obtaining what we need. We can be selfish and shallow as we move throughout our day—just focused on what we need to get done or where we need to go. I know because I’ve been guilty of it myself many times. Jumping right back into the hurried state of America, where there is always somewhere to be and something to be done, I missed the welcoming culture of Nigeria. There are things to be done in Nigeria. There are places to be. But those are not the only things that matter. People also matter.

13599977_1020660138048728_3769125568168879628_nA big part of Nigeria is greetings. You greet everyone you pass, whether you know them or not. Whether it is saying “good morning,” “good afternoon,” “good evening,” “you are welcome,” or “well done,” everyone is greeted and everyone will greet you. In America you are lucky to get a smile from someone who passes by you. Though it is not always that people are trying to be rude or insincere, we are just too wrapped up in our own worlds to even notice the people around us.

13528798_1020660714715337_6583995232999457567_nNow am I saying that the culture of America is all bad and Nigeria is all good? No, of course not. There are good parts of each culture and things that could improve within each culture. I also am not saying that the solution to America’s excess is to just give a bunch of stuff and money to Africa so that they can have more than enough too. In fact, I do not believe that “more than enough” should even be the goal. I think a better goal is for all places to have enough. Not more than; not less than; just enough. But how do we obtain this? This problem is one that has existed for centuries and I know that it is bigger than me. It most likely will not be solved in my lifetime. But there are changes we can make. Instead of enabling, by just giving stuff and money, we can empower. Empower by sending and supporting missionaries. Empower by teaching the Nigerians in a way that they will not have to depend on us—in a way that they will learn and then be able to teach others. And then let them teach us. Let us be empowered by their culture. Let us learn how to be more welcoming—to slow down and notice the people around us. To live more simply. To strive for “enough” instead of “more than enough.” The goal is not to force the Western culture on Nigeria—or anywhere. From what I’ve seen—in the selfishness and shallowness—the Western culture should never be the goal. We can learn from the Nigerians—through the way the live in their culture, and they can learn from us. Though this is all more easily said than done, if we each start in our own worlds and our own mission fields—some in our very backyards–it is one small step that can begin to make a difference.

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DSC_0722So excited to announce that the True Vine Collections opened last Sunday. We were honored with the attendance of the King and several other prominent men and women of Egbe. Our microphone didn’t work so we had to yell, the generator stopped working right before the ribbon cutting but it was still a sweet success. Thank you to all those who donated items and money for the store and continue to do so. Since we have opened we have had a revolving door as the people have not stop coming to patronize us. We have had customers all the way from Cameroon and the sales we have made have been overwhelming. Continue to pray for the store so it can help with the sustainability of C.A.R.E. Africa.

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We had onIMG_2826ly been in Nigeria a few months and a boy named Samson showed up to play. I just assumed he was a compound kid like the other Nigerian kids. One day Cason told me he saw Samson begging at the hospital gate. The next time he came I asked him questions and found out his mom was in the hospital and had been there for three months. Samson took me to the far back corner of the ward to meet his mom. When I asked about her I found out she had HIV positive. She had defaulted on her drugs and had gotten very sick. She was better now and was unable to pay her hospital bill to be released. The benevolent fund was able to get her bill paid and she was released. I sent them with transport money, a Bible, a picture of Samson and Cason and my phone number. I always wonder where they are and how they are doing?

God put the epidemic of HIV/AIDS on my heart back in 2014 though Samson. Over time I got to know the Spring of Life ministry at Egbe Hospital that assisted me with Samson’s mom. I learned a lot about the stigma that Nigeria has about HIV/AIDS patients. I found out why Samson’s mom was in the back corner and not with the rest of the patients. I found out that so many people have this virus but due to lack of education, religious beliefs and culture practices, they never seek treatment. In addition, they continue to infect others out of their denial. Ultimately they get sick and once they make it to Egbe Hospital, it is too late.

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IMG_3335I continued to pray and ask God for guidance on how I could help. C.A.R.E. Africa started and I saw orphan after orphan from AIDS. It is thought that 2 million children in Nigeria are currently orphaned by AIDS. I continued to feel a burden on my heart for the ministry, Spring of Life. As I investigated I found out that we currently had around 300 patients that are on the ARV drugs and that the ministry had almost closed its doors several times due to lack of funds.

My business and marketing mind of course started to run and I saw this challenge before me. I love challenges but this would be the biggest one yet. I have absolutely no experience in the medical field. I didn’t even know the difference between HIV and AIDS. As I started to do my research and found out about NACA, PEPFAR, ART, ARV, HIV, AIDS and many more acronyms I started to think that I was out of my mind. There is no way I could help this ministry unless God showed up and showed me what to do.

98Well God showed up and through a lot of prayer and with consultation of SIM and the Egbe Hospital Revitalization team, I have taken on as Project Manager for the Spring of Life Project. What does this mean? Well ultimately my goal is to find a way for this ministry to sustain itself until God call us home. More to come in future blogs. Pray for me as I take on something much bigger than me. I look forward to watching God work as I am truly just a vessel for him to use at Spring of Life Egbe.

 

Visit us at http://egbehospital.org/spring-of-life-counseling-center/

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Donate Directly to Spring of life by clicking Spring of Life

AWANA Miracle

Posted: May 11, 2016 by Patrice Miles in C.A.R.E. Africa, Egbe, Egbe Nigeria, Miles In Missions, Nigeria, Orphans

DSC_0212C.A.R.E. Africa D Groups have been such a blessing to our children and our volunteers for almost a year now. Our eyes were opened to how little our children know about salvation, sin, repentance and just the basics. We realized we really needed to start from the Genesis 1:1 in order to truly disciple these kids.

DSC_0233We were excited to find AWANA Nigeria several months ago and have been pursing them ever sense. Visits to JOS, sharing with local pastors, training and more had prepared us to start the program in April. The last thing remaining was uniforms. The Nigerian AWANA version divides the children into 4 separate colored teams which helps with the games, record keeping, council time and team time. It is wonderful but each uniform is 900 Niara each.

I work with orphans who cannot afford their own school uniform so an extra curricular uniform would be out of the question. I reached out to a couple of donors asking for help with the cost of the uniforms. Over and over I kept on running into closed doors. We postponed our April start date and rescheduled for May. I told God that if he wanted us to start AWANA in Egbe he needed to provide.

DSC_0283The next week I got an email from someone who told me she had soccer supplies she could donate. I expressed my joy in this, but told her that we had bigger needs then that and asked if she new anyone that could help. I explained AWANA and our need for uniforms. I also explained the 5 applications of children wanting to join C.A.R.E. but cannot b/c I don’t have a sponsors for them. She emailed back thanking me for my honesty and said she would take care of all the AWANA uniforms, sponsor a child and reach out to a few churches she knows could probably sponsor a few children too.

WOW! God is so good and I love it when he shows off. I had to share to encourage anyone that is facing an obstacle right now.  John 5:14 says to bring your requests to him with confidence! He will answer you! Just be open to a NO or a YES, and know that his will and his timing are always best.

DSC_0247We started AWANA last Monday and had 45 children attend. This previous Monday we had 60 show up. We are expecting our club will probably have 100 by the end of the month. We need an AWANA club from the U.S. to sponsor us. If you know of any clubs in the U.S. looking to sponsor a club in Africa can you email me at Patrice.Miles@sim.org.

 

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DSC_1965High school kids in Nigeria are very similar to high school kids in the U.S. At age 14,15 & 16 they have no clue what they want to do for the rest of their lives. They may think of something that sounds flashy like an Artist or something that they know makes a lot of money like a Doctor. This is of course is a great goal. When you ask what University do they want to go to and what kind of Doctor or Artist they want to be…you normally get a blank stare. Kids are kids no matter where you are in the world. The difference in Nigeria is that TV, books and movies are not as widely utilized. You would be surprised how many children know the word airplane but have never actually seen one live or as a toy, in a book or even on TV. In the U.S. kids can see a doctor on television or read about them in books and know they have will see blood and wear a white jacket etc. In Nigeria, some have never even seen a doctor before.

DSC_1996 (1)An apprenticeship is the only way Nigerian kids can see trades and truly understand what they do and how they work. C.A.R.E. kids are required to complete one during their Holiday breaks. University in Nigeria is very hard to get accepted into and it is very costly. The ones that can afford University tend to graduate with a certificate that they will never use and end up back home with the family barely making ends meet. Learning a trade in Nigeria is a much better option for most. Electricians, welders, plumbers, carpenters, seamstress and many other trades are high in demand in Nigeria.

 

DSC_2026 (1)Our E.H.R. staff have stepped up and taken such pride in our program. Many have made friendships with these kids that have continued over the years. This year we were so excited that the medical side of Egbe joined in with us. We were able to have apprenticeships in Lab, Pharmacy, Records, HIV/AIDS Clinic and our Pastoral Care. Every morning as we make our rounds to check on the kids, their smiles and their mentors smiles show us how much this program is a blessing to both the kids and their mentors. Our C.A.R.E. kids are truly experiencing Jesus in so many different ways through this program. I am just exited that I get to watch it all unfold.

teamI am so excited to introduce you to the C.A.R.E. Africa team. I had no clue that God had this amazing team already planned out for me when I stepped on Nigerian soil in 2013. I had no clue C.A.R.E. Africa was even in the radar for my life in Nigeria. If you remember, I was supposed to be a stay at home, homeschooling mom. God had bigger plans for me and he continues to shower his love on me by placing people in my life with the same goals, visions and passions that I have. Let me introduce you to some amazing people that are a part of my life and the C.A.R.E. Africa team

DSC_1881Everyone knows Emma Salako! I cannot go anywhere without hearing people yell out “Coach” or somehow know Emma or of Emma. He is our Administrator, running the day-to-day operations of C.A.R.E. Africa. He is an orphan himself and has a passion for this ministry and everyone involved. He continues to push me to grow the ministry and trust that God will provide. He is my little brother, best friend and confidant. I don’t know what I would so without him.

DSC_1877Tofunmi is next and she is our Caretaker Manager. She manages, mentors, disciples and educates all of our caretakers. Tofunmi is the only daughter of our chaplain in the hospital, Pastor Janet. She was raised in an amazing family with a mother and father that loved God, loved each other and loved their kids. She is a master in bead making and reins from Ilorin where she helped run a bead shop. Her business skills have already proven to be a huge asset in empowering our caretakers in business.

DSC_1654Titi, our Child Mentor, is always smiling and a huge blessing to our children. She mentors, disciples, counsels and assesses the overall welfare of our children. She spends time with each child at least once a month to walk alongside them as their friend and confidant. She graduated from George Campion School in 2014 and is trying to get into university. Her parents have poured a lot of their life into her and it shows through her attitude; walk with the Lord and her desire to learn.

IMG_2517.JPGCecilia our secretary is our newest addition. She is married with a degree and is proficient at Microsoft Office products, computers and more. She recently finished her one-year corper at H.E.L.P. orphanage where she was an assistant accountant, secretary and Auntie to the girls. She is married and lives in Ode Ere. I am excited, as she will be taking a lot of the load that Emma and I currently carry. Expect to see emails from her with updated pictures of C.A.R.E. kids for sponsors.

IMG_6769Diana Beville our Etsy store manager in the U.S. sacrifices her time several weekends a month to travel to different craft shoes selling C.A.R.E. Africa products. Her display booth has been perfected over the past year and our product moves so quickly we cannot keep up with the demand. She would love more volunteers to come alongside her to help market the Etsy store and its products and help with the many craft shows she travels to.

DSC_1665Last but not least are our volunteers. Nick and Katie Riddle, Yomi Bello and my hot and sexy husband Lenny Miles. We could not continue our Wednesday night D Group program if it wasn’t for these guys. We continue to pray for more volunteers as we are hoping to start the first AWANA program in Kogi State in May 2016.

 

C.A.R.E. Team in Action

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Back Together Again

Posted: March 17, 2016 by Patrice Miles in C.A.R.E. Africa, Miles In Missions, Nigeria, Orphans, People of Egbe

DSC_0033Meet Toyin Kayode. Toyin’s mother abandoned him and his father many years ago. His father is a farmer but had grown old and could not provide for Toyin anymore. His Father told him to walk to Egbe from Oke Ere (the next town) and find an old friend of his. This friend happened to be the grandparents to Wale one of our CARE Africa kids. Toyin asked if he could stay with them. He told them he would find work so he could feed himself and pay school fees. They agreed and he moved into Wale’s room.

We felt Toyin was a great candidate for C.A.R.E. and enrolled him in our program. I wanted to meet the Father to confirm Toyin’s story so Emma and I traveled to Oke Ere. He was all alone in his house when we arrived and it didn’t look like he was well. He explained that a neighbor lady was cooking for him so he could eat. I asked him about Toyin and asked why Toyin could not come home and live with him. He explained that the schools in Oke Ere were not good and that it was better for him to stay in Egbe. I talked about scripture and the importance of a Father in a boy’s life. He agreed and said he wanted to be a good Father to Toyin but he could not provide for him. I asked him if Toyin could just come home for the weekends. At first Toyin and his Father didn’t like the idea. I explained that Toyin needed to learn how to be a man, Father, and farmer. Also, he needed to get to know his Fathers church and his Fathers tribe. They both looked scared at the thought of living together but agreed to try it.

DSC_1860After only a few weekends I noticed a change in Toyin. He seemed to be less moody and a smile started to develop on his face. I asked him how things were going with his Dad and he would smile and say things were going great. I asked how church was and he said he loved going with his Dad and helping him to read the Bible we gave him. He told me that there was even talk of maybe his mom coming to visit soon.

Since returning to Nigeria from my home assignment in the US, I came back to find out Toyin’s mom had actually moved back home. I was so excited to hear this news and I went out to meet her. When I arrived she was so excited to meet me and called me Toyin’s Oyinbo (Toyins “white person”). I immediately noticed a difference in Toyin’s father as he looked fatter and had the biggest smile on his face. Toyin was beaming with joy and you could really tell that his family was complete. I was so blessed to get to sit on their front porch and bask in God’s sunlight. His glory was allover the faces of this reunited family. Family Preservation was at work and God was using Emma and I as his hands and feet.

DSC_0017I can get so discouraged sometimes by my conditions here. I work so hard and don’t get to see the fruits of my labor. Things of this culture can seem hopeless as if nothing can or will be changed. I look at these pictures and just smile because he gives me little glimpses each day of why I do what I do. I pray he does the same for you this week.

Toyin’s father still is unable to farm and sell goods like he use to. Toyin’s mother is around now and she sells Garri (a food made from cassava). We are praying to help her buy in bulk the raw cassava needed so that her profit can be maximized. Toyin already has a sponsor for his schooling, but if you would like to help us empower his family, you can donate towards some cassava. Click Toyin  to help us empower another caretaker in Egbe. careboys

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